8 Reasons For Blogging In 2020

I’m restarting my blog and committing to one post a week for all of 2020.

Here are eight reasons why:

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1. I Want Control

I don’t own my Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram accounts. They’re free for me to use because those companies make money selling my ad views and data. I have little control over who actually gets see my posts or how those platforms will work in the future.

With WordPress, I pay to control my own content and choose if there are ads or not.

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2. My Thoughts Are Longer Than A Soundbite

Facebook and Instagram are best for photos, short announcements, or fun questions that connect me to my family and friends. Writing a blog allows me to write about complex topics like: big changes I’ve made in in my life over the past two years, my favorite non-fiction reads, how utopia is misunderstood, why I prefer short stories to novels, or what each of us can do to help reverse global warming.

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3. I Want To Contribute To The Tapas Menu of Memoir

When I was a stay-at-home parent struggling with chronic illness I escaped into blogs as a way of vicariously living other lives. I could sample the lives of so many people just by reading a few posts online because blogs are the tapas of memoir.

I read Tara Ariano’s blog about her life as one of the co-founders of the popular now defunct online forum Television Without Pity. I loved reading about the highs and lows of editing such a massive project, complete with her frequent all-night work sessions and weekly game nights with her spouse and friends in Toronto, Canada.

I also was a fan of Amanda Marcotte’s feminist blog Pandongon.net. Her clear, engaging discussions on what feminism is and isn’t, and how it helps daily life— for both men and women— made my life better in concrete ways. Marcotte also described her move from Austin, Texas to Brooklyn, New York. It was like was living in places I’d never actually been to at the time.

Both bloggers have moved on to other projects, and neither blog is available on the Internet anymore, but I’m a happier person because those two women wrote them. After sampling so many blogs, I want to write my own blog again.

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4. I Made Real Life Friends After Reading Strangers’ Blogs

Before I decided to apply to the Vermont College of Fine Arts (VCFA) to get my MFA in Writing for Children and Young Adults, I read Katia Rania’s blog about her experience of going through the program. Katia’s honest, hopeful entries allowed me to virtually try out the program from the comfort of my own living room.

I was in the middle of the MFA program myself when Katia moved to my hometown. I reached out to her on Facebook to tell her how much I liked her blog and we became friends in real life. She now writes about what it’s like to be a newly published author with the time-consuming job of teaching middle schoolers. I continue to enjoy her posts, even as we now get together in person.

Before I went to VCFA, I was also a regular reader of the annual music list on the blog Presenting Lenore. Lenore was a complete stranger, but I noted that we had similar music tastes, and got new music recommendations from her annual list.

Imagine my surprise when I discovered that the Lenore I met at my first residency at VCFA was the same Lenore who had suggested all those new bands I sampled. We’ve been to a concert together in real life now, and she even made me a mixed CD.

My life is better because Katia and Lenore blogged.

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5. Thanks To Cynsations, I Know That Value Of Deadlines

I also read author Cynthia Leitich Smith’s fantastic children’s literature industry blog, Cynsations, years before I met her as a faculty member at VCFA. After graduating, I became a “Cyntern” on her blog for two years, interviewing writers and putting together the weekly Friday news roundups. I’m still a reporter for the blog, posting interviews occasionally.

When I first joined Cynsations I had never interviewed someone for a blog. Through working with my fellow Cynterns — Gayleen and Stephani–I learned how to meet deadlines. It was eye-opening to see how a deadline could force me to write a posts I didn’t think I was capable of. A lesson I received only because Cynthia took the time and energy to blog.

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6. It’s Time to Embrace My Voice

My very first post on Cynsations was an essay about my struggle to give myself permission to write. I still struggle with voice.

I’ve come to realize that as a kid I unconsciously believed the unfortunate rule that it’s better to be silent rather than to take the chance of offending someone. It’s not like I’m out to offend people, it’s just that when I express my opinions, I’m bound to offend somebody. I used to think I should avoid offending people at all costs.

For years I bent over backwards to not offend people. You know what? I still offended people. Being silent offends people; being sick offended a ton of people. Even being nice to everyone can offend. You might think you’re including everyone, but you always forget someone, and offend them anyway. There is no way not to offend.

What I’ve learned from reading thousands of blog posts is that it’s okay to make mistakes, it’s okay to offend people. Taking an opinion clarifies your thinking.

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7. The Assignment That Taught Me Joan Didion Was Right

“I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want and what I fear.” – Joan Didion

https://www.nytimes.com/1976/12/05/archives/why-i-write-why-i-write.html

At VCFA, I was obsessed with writing a story about a utopian future, but didn’t understand the basics of utopia and couldn’t explain to my advisors why such a story was not delusional, but aspirational.

In my third semester, I had to write a thirty page critical thesis on a writing craft topic. My topic was how to write a satisfying utopian YA novel.

It was the most difficult topic I ever tackled. At one point, I had pages of quotes and references spread out all over my carpet. I was sure I would never wrestle my thoughts into a coherent argument, but I did.

The clarity I gained from writing about utopia, then rethinking my analysis and putting together an even better and clearer lecture for fourth semester, taught me the value of writing.

Before I wrote about utopia, it was hard for me to clearly articulate its value. Now I’m able to easily give a short five minute elevator speech on how utopia is misunderstood, and what value it has for society. (Hint: you can’t get to a new better place if you don’t have a map.)

People tell me that I have changed the way they think about utopia. That ability to change people’s minds is all due to writing it down first.

I’m at a crossroads in my life. Our country and world is at a crossroads. It seems like a good time to figure out what I think and why.

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8. There Will Never Be A Better Time

My current circumstances for blogging are pretty utopian. I’m finally healthy! My kids are happy adults, and I’m taking a year long sabbatical from paid work to embrace slow living. Plus, I have my own writing space.

Either I take the chance on blogging now or I never will.

I’ve decided to take the leap and write one post a week for the rest of 2020.

Next Week: Favorite Non-Fiction Reads From 2019

March 2010: In Brief

Highlights:
Eureka! (Or How My Life is Like An Episode of Castle) – Sometimes on the TV show Castle, Detective Beckett arrests a suspect.  They’re clearly a key to the killing but the murders keep happening anyway. That’s how my health has been.  I find I’m allergic to something, get shots for it or stay away from it… And then… I’m still unhealthy.

On the show, one of Castle’s family or friends makes an innocuous comment and Castle suddenly knows who the killer is. Apparently Martin is the Rick Castle in my life.  After describing my tainted Motrin reactions, Martin had a brainstorm and started reading about food allergies.

 And the "killer" is. …. [dun dun DUN]  Wheat.  Yep.  Wheat.  Since I’m super allergic to grass, Martin came up with the idea that maybe eating a type of grass might cause me problems too. 

It was hard giving up bread and pasta. I love their gluten-y goodness.  But when I did…Ta da!  I was healthy!! And I sure won’t miss the horrible sinus headaches. Thank goodness I’m not allergic to reading or TV.  Can you imagine?!

Harper’s Ferry Soon after I figured out my gluten-sensitivity issues, the kids’ spring break came. The bad thing about spring break?  The timing meant that after months of being sick, I had only a week or two of productivity before my schedule came to another stop (and the reason why this summary is so late). 

The good thing about break?  The daughterling and I took our third mother-daughter trip together.  This time we stayed in a historical townhouse in Harper’s Ferry.  We ate junk food, discussed our musical tastes, watched episodes of the Gilmore Girls, played games, and toured Harper’s Ferry– a quaint historical town that’s pretty much been stuck in time since the 1860’s. 

Sub Jobs:
1/2 day – 1st grade Reading/Language Arts Teacher at a different school than my usual

Fiction Books:
Gregor and the Marks of Secret, by Suzanne Collins( ***)  – The last book in the Underlander series didn’t disappoint.  It was a bit longer than the others but as intense and satisfying.  An excellent series on the realities of war, told in a way that elementary school children can relate to.  [Middle Grade Fiction, ages 9-14]

Non-Fiction Books:
Dance of Connection, by Harriet Lerner (***) – Last year I read the 70’s classic, Dance of Anger, by the same author and loved it. Lerner has a nice way of explaining the complex interactions of relationships (of any kind) and how one manages the dance between meeting the needs of both people in the relationship. [Adult Non-Fiction]

Music:
Vitamin String Quartet – I can’t believe I didn’t know about this group until now.  This string quartet has over 50 albums covering everyone from Kelly Clarkson to Godsmack.  I love rock and pop music played with real stringed instruments (though not Muzak).  AC/BC’s "Back in Black" sounds like the theme song to a Western.  The string version of Godsmack’s "Mistakes" becomes a cool post-modern dance piece and Queen’s "We Will Rock You" is like an Irish stepdancing  battle song.  My favorite covers so far are Fall Out Boy’s "Hum Hallelujah" and Mazzy Star’s "Fade Into You".  They’re both songs I like generally but are especially pretty played with strings.

Lady Gaga, The Fame Monster– I was playing this album in the car while driving the daughterling.  She asked if I could  play something else because she had heard quite enough Lady Gaga badly sung through the halls of middle school.  I’m lucky I don’t have fun albums ruined for me by going to Middle School. 😉  I changed the music right away.  Middleschoolers deserve a lot of sympathy.

Frightened Rabbit, The Winter of Mixed Drinks – While not as fabulous as Midnight Organ Fight, this album still has plenty of relationship angst, Scottish accents, and catchy tunes to make me happy. [Parent Note: Not especially good music for playing in the car while driving young kids.]

TV – Top 5 Favorites of the Month (In A,B,C Order)
(The) Big Bang Theory – There are only so many Sheldon-centered episodes they can do before it starts feeling recycled.  Still, I really enjoyed the Lord of the Rings episode.

Being Erica – A writing friend told me about this fun escapist chick-lit type show.  It was just the type of  show my TV schedule was missing.  32-year old Erica Strange has a lot of regrets about the decisions she’s made in her life.  She’s certain if she could go back and make better decisions she could have a real career– instead of a series of dead-end jobs– and a satisfying relationship–  instead of a series of loser boyfriends.  Enter Dr. Tom who offers her the chance to actually go back in time and redo those regrets.

Erica is a likable character and the way the writers move each season arc along is satisfying and clever.  The entire two season series is currently available on Hulu and each season is only 12-13 episodes long. 

Castle

Caprica – This prequel to Battlestar Galactic grew on me.  I didn’t much like the pilot and hated Eric Stolz’s character, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that the show had potential.  The plot moves slowly. There’s no real blow-your-mind type of crisis like the start of Battlestar Galactica. The exploration of the father-daughter relationships in this show is interesting though.  The fathers are presented as the powerful present and their daughters are sort of symbols of the future.  The fact that the fathers can’t seem to understand their daughters and want to control them — despite clearly caring for them — seems to be the seed that starts the cylon-human problems.  It’s an interesting perspective and I look forward to seeing what they do with the second half of the season in September.

(The) Good Wife